Success!

Some thing that everyone is looking for.. Something that even a man living on the streets and a millionaire has wished for in life..What is it? Success? What is success?

Is it an achievement.. Is it financial security? Is it leading a happy married life? Or is it giving birth to children and giving them a comfortable life? Well.. according to me.. it is the feeling of accomplishment of the goal of our life.. different for different people.. like it is the result of the deeds, hard work, dedication, prayers, etc.

But what is our goal of life... All of the things I mentioned above... security, comfort, luxury, money, happiness, etc. No. It is the difference you make in other people's life.. It is the mark you embark which shall be eternal.. It is something done without the want of anything in return.. It is the love you spread to make someone's day(not only to your spouse), It is indeed the smile you gave to a beggar on the street.. Two sweet words you said to the waiter who served you.. A Little thank you to the man who dropped you to the destination.. THATS ALL it takes to make someone's day.. Thats all it takes to add a deed in your life.. This is the real goal of our life..
We all want to be happy, rich, famous. But no one is going to take that richness, the fame or the happiness up with them.. because these aren't eternal.. LOVE IS! And if you can love.. Your a successful human.. If you can be loved by others then your a highly successful human being..

This is success.. Fulfillment of desires in one lifetime.. Having no more urges.. Is success! Loving everyone around you unconditionally is success! So whoever wants to be successful in life.. Your stepping stone to success would be "LOVING"

Death.. Is Beautiful..

Like every story starts...

Once upon a time there used to be this young man, named Rohan, 23 years old... He lived a comfortable life.. Worked at a well paying firm.. He had depressing friends.. He had seen his friends loose their parents, siblings, etc. He worked day and night to make his family happy.. he helped the poor and had a soft corner for those in need.. And so.. The supreme power came down and granted him one wish.. He said, "Make my family immortal!" The supreme power warned him but he didn't budge.. The wish was granted.

He grew older with time and did his family.. When it was time for someone to die.. The supreme power would lock them up in a room to survive.. One by One all the family members were locked inside and when it was rohan's turn.. He was asked to visit the room before he dies.. He went in and found out that he had trapped them... He saw his parents in the worst states.. Some had lost their eyesight, or the hearing sense.. Some had gone numb, Some mute.. Some had a broken organ.. Seeing such pain and disaster.. He pleaded to let them go!.. He saw the want to die in everyone's eyes.. He felt sorry for being so selfish.. for wanting them to live a life they dint want to live.. He pleaded and begged to the supreme power to let them go.. Everyone in the room prayed for DEATH!.. Have you ever heard of that? People praying for death..

Everyone has a limit.. Everyone is going to get over one or the other day.. Even we are.. Don't be scared of death.. Embrace it willingly..




And to people who are going to lose their near and dear ones.. Face it! Thats the only solution.. You cannot sit and cry all your life about your loss.. Get up and move on.. I aint saying that you should forget things.. But don't get stuck! Its easy to say.. But hard to put it in practice.. I know.. But do you see another way out? People who have gone have gone for the best.. And they have lived life as much as they wanted to.. So you don't need to feel so horrible about it.. Cause Nothing has happened to you.. your just crying and Feeling miserable cause your wanting that person.. You are being SO selfish.. You are crying because YOU need that person.. Grow out of this.. And soon you'll realize that death isn't that bad.. In fact, I'd say its not bad at all.. For people who don't respect the worth of their life and don't live it well.. Its a lesson and for people who live their life well and enjoy life completely.. They've had their share of enjoyment and now its the turn of death.. Life and death are two sides of the same coin.. You have to live with the fact in your life that this may end anytime.. So people, please enjoy your life and death too.. Give death a smiling face.. Because living in this cruel world forever isn't a job for mortals!




Grow up, Move on, Enjoy, Help.. Thats what we're here for... Thats what life is all about.. Love your Life Because Love is Life!

With Love - Kanchan

Rain.. Its AWESOME!!

It was raining today, and without a second thought.. I ran to my bedroom, switched my clothes and hurried downstairs.. It was so beautiful.. Trust me it feels great to be alive and seeing the nature around you.. i walked further to a place without trees so i could get wet!




The water so pure seemed to enjoy itself wetting me... I saw absolutely no one in my colony and felt better to have all the rain to myself.. I wouldn't stop smiling.. People stared at me weirdly.. But you know i cared a DAMN!! I mean i was enjoying myself thoroughly.. Drenched, i sat on a seat close by and stared into space wishing that time would stop here.. Seeing the drops falling in the water that had accumulated in a corner.. I wanted to click it.. and save these moments.. To see water run through my hands.. Wet my hair and go tickling down my back.. My skin felt like it was breathing.. I felt like this is what life is worth living for.. THE BEAUTY OF NATURE'S EXISTENCE.. Water everywhere.. I actually noticed people running away to find some shade to stand under... This time i stared at them and laughed.. They were running away from life.. Then finally i came across these two kids who love the rain(like me), they stood together in my colony's ground and smiled at each other.. They noticed me coming.. I smiled at them too.. And asked them if they like the rain.. They just said, "we love it".. "and you?".. I replied saying, "ME TOO".. We stood quite! They went away and i stood there all alone.. My silence spoke to the noise of the rain.. It felt like i was conversing with someone high up there who has created this rain.. To come down to quench the thirst of the earth! I said, "Thank you".. and heard the clouds making a loud noise as if they heard me! I felt so pampered in the arms of the rain.. but still so free.. I wanted to dance.. Sing in joy.. But dint do it out of some shyness.. or Embarrassment.. after all.. I'm yet Human and do care about what the world thinks of me!




I then walked ahead to come back home.. I reached home and threw my chappals outside my house and ran to my bedroom to fetch some dry clothes and went to take a wash.. I must have never FELT as beautiful as this ever! I hope everyone who reads this post loves the rain or they'll hate me!!.. :)

(P.S:- By saying someone high up there.. I dint mean GOD... i meant a supreme power.. who has created the nature.. God is in the perception.. I perceive god in those people who have passed away.. and are probably loving their life up there now:).. No offence! )

With LOVE - Kanchan

Beauty... of Existence...

What are we thankful for in life.. Beauty?? Fame?? Money?? Dont you think there is something higher than this to be thankful for?? We go to the temples regularly and ask for more or thank him for what we own today.. But we have something that we don't own but still its OURS!



EXISTENCE.. Don't you think we should be happy that we have one more day to live when we wake up in the morning.. Don't you think we should be glad that have one more night to sleep peacefully... Cause we actually went through the whole day safely.. We should be happy for being!! I know all of this may sound familiar.. But have we given it a thought ever! It is the beauty of our EXISTENCE that helps us do our day-to-day chores or even earn money or even for that matter being famous.. Are all these materialistic important to live.. or to make life BEAUTIFUL.. It just makes US look beautiful! We should try and put this existence to use.. And the next question is.. How are we going to do that?? Make a difference in people's lives, try and improve someone else's existence.. By doing this you not only put your existence to use but also feel better.. Try it.. You may find it to be true!!

By saying Beauty of existence i don't mean how beautiful we can look when we're alive.. But how beautiful we can feel when we're Alive..

From all three posts of mine.. I'm just trying to make A difference.. No offence to anyone personally!

Please give this a thought.. To how beautiful our life can be only if we help in beautifying it.. Not by wearing costly clothes.. Or looking beautiful but by simply loving people and helping them make use of their existence! And once again.. Lets love doing this!

With Love - Kanchan

The want to want more...

A man's life can end but his wants wont.. and the day they do... he shall be enlightened.. these beautiful dresses, branded shoes, a huge grand marriage, a 5 star hotel dinner date, a costly wrist watch.. and the most imp... a cellphone -WANTS. {INEXHAUSTIBLE}

The man who stands in a bus for a long time may say.. the man sitting on the seat is so much more comfortable... how i wish.....
Same way the man sitting on the seat may say "the man sitting on the window seat is so much more comfortable cause of the breeze.. how i wish...
The man sitting on the window seat may look at a person in the a/c car and may say.. how i wish i cud be there or afford such luxury..
But the man sitting in the car stuck in traffic driving... wud love the man who will walk by his car and reach the destination sooner.. he'd say how i wish i cud get down n walk it up..
But the man who was walking may love it even if he cud stand and go in the bus...
This is an unbreakable vicious circle.... the circle of wants.. tht may never end.. and to end this.. we have to grow out of being mortal.. need to be satisfied.. by which i don mean tht we shudnt strive for more.. always do.. but striving for more shudnt become a need.. nor a want.. it shud just be!!! we shud be satisfied that we are alive....

looking at those poor people on the road makes me want to give up my comfortable life cause if they cant have shelter.. proper food then i have no right to sit on this computer with the a/c on and me writing a blog... and to sleep on a comfortable bed.. eat mcdonalds burger... but how will my death make a difference.. how will me giving up my life help them?? tht was the first question in my head.. and i said.. just helping these people is now my goal in life.. and i will study.. grow up.. earn enough not to give away in charity but give these people a life they deserve... me wanting a rich life may be my want... or our want.. but in these fantasies we forget that our want cudn't be as important as their NEED!.. Lets prioritize guys...

Whats more Important... lets wake up... lets help.. as they have a right to live too.. lets stop wanting... lets help fulfilling needs... and like my previous post... lets love doing this..:)

-With LOVE - Kanchan:)

Birth..Relationships..Death.. Or is it something more??

We usually think of parents, relatives, friends or lovers when the word "relationship" is taken.. but what do these relationships mean to us?? we also say that i cant live without "xyz".. do we really mean it? ask yourself.. ask people who have lost any of their near n dear ones!! you know what.. they're still alive.. why do we lie to ourselves.. why do we attach ourselves to someone to such an extent that their presence completes us.. why do we give the right or want the right to interfere(harsh word.. i know) in each others life.. is tht what a relationship is all about.. i don think so.. it was today tht i realised tht we always wanto possess someone.. and not let them go.. we are such selfish people.. its all about our view to life and relationships.. why is it said that man is a social animal.. we'd die without society... true.. no one can live alone.. but can someone enjoy having the company of others and not cry in their absence ever?? if someone does... we' call him heartless or emotionless... and if he does cry we call him weak.. why?? have any of us ever thought what wud happen if we dint have the parents we do.. the best friends we love to be around and the lovers who we cuddle with... u knw what... BIG SHIT... it wud be someone else... and u'd be comfortable with them too.. its jus the matter of time.. it would make a difference for sure.. but does it really matter to us?? unless we're attached to these people.. our we capable of living a happy life? we may "lose"(as everyone puts it) someone or sumthing all the time.. does tht mean we can never be happy... and if we cant.. i don think we deserve to live.. so we shud die.. but again...is death the end?? is this all we're born for?? is this it?? growing up.. studying... getting married.. happines.. having children.. losing parents.. crying.. dissapointments.. hatred.. fights.. and DEATH..THATS IT? cant we expect a little more from life.. from relationships..from LOVE? we either live or lose.. they say live each moment.. and if u dont u lose each moment.. why not say love each moment.. love it when ur getting married..lovve it when u wake up..love making food..love even ur nature's cal(if u knw wat i mean?)..love being urself..love havnig a relaionship..love losing someone cause maybe this is better way of showing gratitude for whatsoever they must have done for us.. love everything u do cause thts the only way u can do ur best.. love everyone.. thank everyone even the ricksha driver who drops u home.. and even the man who washes ur car.. and even the post man who climbed a couple of stairs for delivering an imp msg to u.. all these help.. it makes their day.. why wud they do these things for.. u havent obliged them in any way.. jus a smile and a word of gratitude may help.. love evryone... love life.. and life will love u.. i read this line in a book..- "love life to such an extent that even death may wanto be alive!!!!.." :) keep smiling and keep loving.. i hope this blog may make a difference in the behaviour towards ppl and it wud help ppl understand how imp it is to love..
:-) with LOVE-Kanchan